Kaddish is a prayer that praises G-d and concludes with a plea for universal peace. Because of the inherent sanctity of this prayer it is only said with a minyan (quorum). Recognizing G-d’s infinite kindness at this sensitive crossroad is a powerful affirmation of faith. It is a source of great merit to the deceased and helps alleviate your pain while mourning.
WHO SAYS KADDISH, AND FOR HOW LONG?
Kaddish is said daily for a parent for the first 11 months following their passing. There are many situations where other family members should take on the role of saying kaddish in the absence of a child. These details are beyond the scope of this website and we recommend you reach out to your rabbi for guidance on specific situations. There is a longstanding custom that if one’s mother and father are both alive, one should not say kaddish for any other relative.
In addition to the kaddish said during the mourning period, there is a special version of Kaddish that is said at the gravesite immediately after the burial. We have tutorial videos to help you with this.
Why should I recite Kaddish?
Kaddish transforms your sense of loss and helplessness into ongoing connection and meaning. At the same time, it adds purpose and substance to the memory of the deceased. Jewish belief also maintains that the deceased is comforted with the knowledge that others are carrying on the eternal flame of Jewish tradition. When Kaddish is said for your loved one you are connecting — to G-d, to yourself, and to the deceased.
Can someone say Kaddish for me?
It is best if you can say Kaddish yourself. However, if you are unable to or uncertain if you can recite Kaddish regularly, you can still affirm your faith and love by having Kaddish said in your place.
If you like to arrange for someone else to say Kaddish, please click here.
